How To Make Your Ex Chase You (Reverse The Roles & Win Them Back)

Shift the balance of power and make your ex chase YOU! Trust me, it's possible.... 

Right now you're probably assuming that the only way you can get your ex back is if you can convince them to give you a second chance. WRONG! Play your cards right and you can flip the situation on its head and have your ex chasing after YOU.

The best way to win your ex back is to make them decide that the breakup was a mistake and then chase after you trying to get you to take them back.

Step 1 -- Steal back the power from your ex. You probably weren't happy about the breakup, right? Even if you agreed with the breakup, I would imagine it wasn't your idea... and that means that all the power was in your ex's hands. Despite your best efforts to save the relationship, you were powerless, and nothing you could say or do would change your ex's mind. That's why you need to steal back some of the power and remove your ex's safety net. 

Step 2 -- The Disappearing Act. What's the very best way to demonstrate to your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend that you no longer need them in your life? By ending all communication with him or her for a month or so.

By disappearing off your ex's radar, you're communicating to them that you're OK with the breakup and that you are ready to move on and replace your ex with some new guy or girl. That may not be true, but you need your ex to think it is, because he or she won't try to call your bluff.

Ignoring your ex helps to build nostalgia and allows your ex to forget some negative memories. With you suddenly out of the picture and gone from their life, your ex will begin to miss you like mad and wonder if breaking up was a huge mistake.

Step 3 -- Removing Your Ex's Safety Net. Your ex may have told you they still want to be friends and would like you to continue to be a part of their life. Why do they want to be friends? To keep your around as a "plan B" in they don't find someone new quickly, or if they change their mind. Your ex wants you there to fall back on and to entertain them while they move on. You can't let this happen.

If you refuse to be friends and make it clear that breaking up with you means you're gone forever... that you're not going to stick around to be your ex's backup plan, and they won't be able to have you back at the snap of their fingers.

If your ex tries to contact you (which is likely) then you have another opportunity to show your ex they're no longer in control. You want your ex to see that you're doing well, moving on, having fun, and being chased by many other guys or girls eager to take your ex's place by your side.

Step 4 -- Wait For Your Ex To Start Chasing After You! If you've done what I've just described, and if your ex has realized that you're OK without them, and won't be their "backup plan", then it's extremely likely that your ex will try to contact you and maintain contact with you. 

Your ex may try to re-claim the balance of power by throwing you nuggets of affection and by talking about past memories you shared together. Don't give in to this, and you'll be able to maintain the "power" and likely you'll see your ex start to apologize and chase after you.